The sun never needs permission to shine. It’s always shining and is only blocked temporarily by the clouds.
Shining, is what the sun is meant to do. And so are YOU!
You are meant to show the world all of who you are, shining with your greatest talents and gifts.
The clouds that pass over our light can be the shadows of fear, doubt or insecurities. Some of these are imposed upon us and some are self-imposed.
Since, we have zero control on other people and the outside world, the only place to shift our focus is within ourselves. It’s time to give yourself permission to shine!
My Personal Story
I have hesitated to share my story because it’s not the story of “I was bullied as a child or had a lot of obstacles to overcome.” My childhood was great, I had lots of friends, did well in school, excelled in sports. And that was who I was. I wasn’t attached to it, didn’t think I was better than others, it was me showing up fully as me.
And I remember the exact moment that shifted. The moment where I chose to diminish myself and keep myself small. It was the last day of grade 6 and I was waiting for my friends to walk to school and only one of them showed up. I asked where my other friend was and she said, “She doesn’t want to walk with you because she thinks you think you’re so great.” It was like a punch to the gut. I can still feel it a little bit now.
I had won an award the day before and someone had told a group of people ( falsely ) that when I won, I said. “Too bad we can’t all be winners.” I would never would have said that or what I said was taken out of context.
I didn’t think I was so great/ better than others, but looking back I can see I really had a good sense of self which is awesome.
What I remember though, is that in that moment before walking to school, I told myself that it was not OK to stand out or shine – that people wouldn’t like you. And I made the decision as I moved to a new school to start grade 7, that I wouldn’t allow that to happen. I began to diminish myself, deflect compliments and never wanted to be the centre of attention.
And that continued for about 30 years! In the past 5 years, I have really become aware of the impact this has had on me and have begun to shift it. It has had me playing really small in my business, not standing out or promoting myself and what I do, not owning my gifts and ultimately keeping me in a box that I was not meant to live in. I think it has even been a part of my weight struggle – that extra weight that I keep on to protect myself and to make sure I don’t stand out too much. And I’m sure it has impacted me in ways that I’m not fully conscious of…
I’m not sure why so many of us shy away from showing all of who we are and standing in that in a powerful way. Why it is so hard to let ourselves be seen. That’s the reason I share this, to let you know that it is worth getting to the root of what keeps us playing small or keeping a ‘vow of invisibility’. That is the deep work that I have been through and that I help my clients with.
What I do know is that we ARE meant to show all of who we are and to shine in all that makes us unique. I hope today you will give yourself permission to shine your light a little brighter!